Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Interview: Queen Silvia talks about being a grandmother with BUNTE.

Photo: Dana Press

She is a Queen of touch: Silvia of Sweden (72) at the birthday reception of their daughter on Solliden Palace patiently shakes hands of visitors, poses for selfies with children and sings a birthday song for Victoria (38) with the amount. Two days before she had shown a similar attitude at the opening ceremony of the great horse show CHIO in Aachen. With her husband Carl Gustaf (70) she visited the "Swedish Village" on the tournament course, talked to Swedish entrepreneurs and active athletes in the stable.Even during the interview with BUNTE, the Queen acts approachable and very friendly. When the reporter tells her that she came from the Heidelberg area as the Queen also, they immediately fell into the typical Palatine singsong: "Hajo! Look! Isch of nätt! "

Majesty, you were born in Germany, but are in Aachen as a representative of Sweden. Where do you feel at home? 

That's an interesting question that I would like to answer with the following comparison: I think that if you get the first child, then you love it very much. And then you suddenly get the second child and one wonders: Is it possible to love the second just like the first? And suddenly you have a third child. But can you split your heart in three equal parts? I think so! And so it is with my own feelings. I grew up in Brazil, in Germany I spent my teenage years and then I came to Sweden. I love Germany, my roots, my father's country. Naturally! But I also love Brazil because my mother was Brazilian and I went to school there. Now I live in Sweden, have three children and five grandchildren - Swedish children. And my husband is Swedish. It is understandable that I also love Sweden! 

Many Germans are fascinated with the Swedish Royal Family. How do you explain our fascination with your family? 
Hm. You better ask the Germans. For me, it's hard to explain. But the bond between Germany and Sweden has always been very large, especially the familiar one: think of Princess Sibylla of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha, my husband's mother. Or Queen Victoria of England. 

Do you speak German well at home? Have your grandchildren learned German? 
They're too small yet. But the Crown Princess speaks very good German. Madeleine and Carl Philip are shy, but of course they understand the language. And the grandchildren? Each language they learn, is a door to the world. It is also much more convenient when you can speak several languages. 

What do your grandchildren call you then?
 Moder Moder. Moder means mother. Moder Moder means grandmother. Or Farmor. That's said, if one is the paternal grandmother. In Swedish, one always knows exactly when you're called grandmother. 

2016 was another eventful year for your Royal Family: You have become twice a grandmother, celebrated your 40th wedding anniversary, Victoriadagen now and in autum the christening of your grandson Alexander. Everything seems more like a fairy tale. Appearances are deceptive? 
It is both a fairy tale, but also a lot of work. We have an intensive program. The events doesn't begin at 9am and finish at 17 o'clock, but it is constantly something going on. It's interesting, really, for that I am my husband also very grateful because it is unlikely possibilities. Many trips, for example. But it is also a lot of work to prepare for it. In October we are especially pleased with the state visit to Germany for the second time for us! The first time we were in Bonn, now Berlin is the capital and Germany is very different. We actually visit the country privately sometimes. Whenever we travel to the south of France, we drive through Germany, stopping in different cities. Every time we take a different route. I can only recommend!

Those are insanely long car rides. Straining not do this to? 

Oh, my husband is an excellent driver. 

I heard he wanted to still view necessarily the Mercedes stand here on the show grounds... 
Quite possible. He loves cars. They have a few more horsepower. 

Your granddaughter Leonore seems fond of horses. Recently you could see on photos, as she visited her pony Haidi.
 Oh yeah! She loves them! She grooms them, feeds and dresses them. Whenever she can, she visits her pony. If it were up to her she would have liked to do so everyday. 

Your credo is: grandchildren are the dessert of life. Are you a pampering Omi? 
Well, there are sweets in Sweden for children on Saturdays only. This is followed by all hold. Dentists propagate this rule, of course, say that children are better on a day to eat as much as they want, and then good brushing, than to nibble everyday Sweet. Sometimes I ask the children: "Is today Saturday? "Then I say," No. "And then they say:". No? Oh, I'll wait. "That's no problem.


Sunday, July 24, 2016

Chris O'Neill talks family life and work with Expressen.

Photo: Suvad Mrkonjic
Solliden Palace. Princess Madeleine and Chris O'Neill are enjoying the Swedish summer on Öland. In a big summer interview, Chris O'Neill tells us now about tennis mornings and family home evenings at Solliden, how Nicolas took his first steps the other day and how the little Prince looks up to Leonore - and Chris O'Neill hopes to see the family grow more. 
We want to have more children. Both Madeleine and I want a big family. One or two more. 
It is an early morning at Solliden Palace. In a moment, the Palace shall be open to the public and the Royal Family get down to the private boathouse down by Kalmar to enjoy the glorious weather. One of the family members, Chris O'Neill, has chosen to take a little break this morning.I'ts almost exactly a year ago that he told me why he and Madeleine would leave Sweden in the fall and move to London. Now they have been living in London for almost 12 months and Chris summarizes the impressions:

For me it was like coming home again, of course. For Madeleine it was something completely new to move from New York to London, but it has worked wonderfully well. We moved to be closer to Sweden and I would still be able to do my work. Now it is so much easier being able to get back and forth to Stockholm for Madeleine. It's a completely different freedom.

We meet up at the King's Coffee Torp inside at Solliden. Chris chose a table a little aloof. It's still early and no one gets to notice him.I love Öland and Solliden Palace. It is a fantastic place and a wonderful place to be in the summer, he says.

How has the first year in London been? 

We're about to get into everything, and above all,  Nicolas and Leonore. They're what is called pseudo twins because they are so close in age.It has been a busy year. Both Madeleine and I have worked great. Besides my job and Madeleine's royal mission and commitment to Childhood, we focus heavily on family life and children. For example, we prepared the children's schools. Leonore starting kindergarten in the fall. It feels good.

How long will you stay in London?We have not set any time limit. However, it will be at least two to three years. Then we'll see what happens.

Is it okay for Madeleine? 

Yes absolutely. We feel both very good in England.

Chris O'Neill has previously reported on his work - how he helps other companies with different payment solutions through his company Wilton Payments. Helping large companies to secure new business at lower costs, long-term contracts and electronic payment solutions.I'm working on it. It takes longer than you think to develop such payment solutions to large enterprises. You can come up with a good idea and yet three years later remain in the same process. 

Especially if you work with large companies. It's a bit like an oil tanker. But once you've driven it and have a straight course and do a good job, it will be the company that will be loyal to you. You have to constantly be present, and it requires a lot of me.
 How much do you work?

A lot.
I travel a lot, but above all, about 75 per cent in London. The trips I make, for example, Zurich or Milan is the day, so that I don't have to spend a night in a hotel. Back in London, I have an office that I share with a few other enterprises, and in the evenings I can be home with Madeleine and the children.

How is the weekend in London?

London is so much more child-friendly than New York. Usually on the weekends you can go to lots of parks like Richmond Park and Hyde Park. Even museums and a variety of aquariums. Both London and Stockholm are built more child-friendly than New York. On the evenings we prioritize being at home with the children. Both Madeleine and I are very much about family dinners and just being at home.Chris begins to proudly talk about the kids Princess Leonore and Prince Nicolas:

Both Madeleine and I agree that life can not be much better than what it is today with these two little creatures. There are two completely different characters and you can see now that Nicolas is watching every single thing that Leonore makes and admires her.

Nicolas took his first steps the other day! says Chris and shining up. They weren't the most secure, but they're his first steps. Leonore went when she was 12 months. But I read somewhere that girls usually go earlier than boys.

What is the difference between Leonore and Nicolas?

completely different individuals. Nicolas is a soft little guy. Leonore is dominant and a certain small girl. And by the way, says Chris. I think Nicolas has inherited something of his uncle Carl Philip and grandfather the King. He loves everything that has a motor. He's completely obsessed with everything related to the engines. So we do know how it will be in the future, he says, laughing.

Do you want more children?

Yes absolutely. Since it's not a foregone conclusion. Madeleine and I love having a big family. But we want to wait with the kids right now. I feel that we must focus on Nicolas and Leonore. Make sure they get our time and that we see them 100 percent. But in the future, absolutely! 

How many more? A child? Two children? 
Chris laughs: One or two, accurate, he says and laughs again.Last winter was Chris and Madeleine were in "Skavlan 'on SVT and told for the first time about their relationship on TV. Chris is happy he did it: I have received many positive reactions. It feels good. Many have told me that they had a "very different picture of you" before "Skavlan".

 Do you Recognise it? That people who do not know you have a preconceived idea about you? 
Yes absolutely. We all have images and perceptions of people we may not know. My friends know who I am and what  kind of person I am. Since I am convinced that there are people who change their minds after perhaps seen a program like "Skavlan". It's always easy to judge anyone, but I believe in giving everyone a chance and get to know them as individuals. 

Do you find it hard to be public? 
It is what it is. I'm getting more and more used to it. Like making a TV show like "Skavlan" with so many viewers I was of course nervous. It was not the easiest. Being a public person has all its aspects. All the paparazzi if you are on vacation is such a thing. It can get annoying after a while. But that's a small price you pay.

 I do not think much about it anymore. I have my amazing family and kids and have to say I think we've got to have a good and protected the privacy of the past year. Madeleine and I are committed to giving children a childhood as normal as possible. That they are protected and can have their life. Since're both Madeleine and I are aware that there will never be 100 percent normal, as for other children who are not public.

 Photo: Suvad Mrkonjic
You have left the United States and your summer house in Florida is on sale. Why? 
It is easy. We do not use it anymore. To have a house in Florida means a constant maintenance of everything from garden to pool and even when we are not there we need to have the air conditioner. Things like those cost a lot on the long run.Then there is Florida and all the insurances. Everything from insurance against flooding, to hurricanes. While it pulls in the way of costs. Now we do not use the house any longer, and therefore decided to sell it. Nothing goes fast in Florida so it will probably take its time to be sold.Chris and Madeleine are in Öland to enjoy the Swedish summer. Chris manages his operations from the castle:The King had the kindness to lend an office to me and from there I can control my business. In the rest of Europe and the United States now in the holidays. We're are all about to complete everything to go on vacation. So you have to fight on even harder. I go this weekend back and forth to London and will do so in the coming weeks. Madeleine, however, will stay in Öland with the children for at least a couple more weeks. 

What do you do everyday in Öland?
 I begin each morning with a game of tennis. 

Who do you play against?
 It could be Madeleine or Carl Philip. I also have a professional tennis coach from Borgholm coming and run different sports with me. Since we usually go down to the boathouse with the kids and just swim. I love to swim with the kids. There is so much to do inside at Solliden. If it's not the fantastic strawberry or raspberry plantations, it's horses for Leonore. Then we hang out a lot with the family and grandfather King and grandmother Silvia.

Do you eat breakfast with the rest of the Royal Family? 
Yes absolutely. We usually try to gather in the morning at breakfast.

 How do evenings go out? 
Usually we cook food first to the children and then add them. After that we usually get dinner with the rest of the family. Sometimes down at the beach when the weather is good. Then Madeleine and I can have nights when we just take a pizza and watch a movie.

Which movies then? 
I love old classic movies such as "submarine" and "The Hunt for Red October." Comedy is also something that I like. 

What about Madeleine? 
She likes action and new movies. Since we both like series. "The Good Wife" and "Suits" are two that we are watching.

Have you seen "Making a murderer" on Netflix? 

No, I have completely missed it. It is good, then? Thanks for the tip! 

How is your relationship with the King and Queen? 
Amazing. They are two wonderful and generous people. With both their time, love and warmth. They are also two incredibly good sounding board. Both have as much knowledge as I can ask about the different issues. The Queen is very humble. She is as she usually say a woman with Brazilian Heart and German brain. Incredibly sharp. 
Photo: Suvad Mrkonjic

And the King, then? 
He has a life experience that is huge. Just sit in the evenings and hear all his stories and all he has been through. It is huge. And very entertaining. I also have a fantastic relationship with the others in the family such as Victoria and Daniel and Carl Philip and Sofia.

 Did you feel welcome from the beginning into the Royal Family? 
From day one! Undoubtedly. 

Why do you think so? 
Everyone rely on Madeleine and her opinion. They know the incredibly wise woman she is.

 We end the interview taking a walk up on Alvar and taking pictures of Chris. Once there, Chris tells us that Alvar is a beathtaking for him and Madeleine:

We usually try to get here every day. It's tremendously beautiful.There, in the middle of Alvar, Chris and I talk about everything that is currently happening in the world. Everything from attacks in Nice to, most recently, Turkey.

It's just terrible. Just terrible, he says and shakes his head.We're talking about the English choice to stay or leave the EU. It became brexit - leave EUDue to my work, you probably understand what I think about brexit. Of course England will not leave. I believe that no side won because it was precisely those who are dissatisfied and want out England from the EU went and voted. Had more people who want to stay gone to the polling stations had been different. But what is happening now is not good.Before we be separated, I ask Chris if he follows the forthcoming elections in the United States:Yes of course.

Trump or Hillary?

 Well I can say as much as that of Clinton is elected we have three women in leadership in five of the world's leading economies. It would be amazing.Chris apologizes. Inside Solliden are waiting Madeleine and the children Leonore and Nicolas.Madeleine has some friends visiting with children. So it becomes the beach and swimming in the day. Another great family day at Öland, he says with a big smile.


Monday, July 11, 2016

Crown Princess Mary for VOGUE Australia, August 2016.

This was going to be the story of a beautiful princess in a faraway kingdom surrounded by her handsome prince and adorable children living happily ever after. Twelve years on from our first Vogue interview with HRH Crown Princess Mary, just months after the royal wedding in 2004, this was to be the next chapter in a fairytale. Following my trip to Copenhagen I can attest that HRH Crown Prince Frederik is indeed intelligent and handsome, with a charming grin and twinkle in his eye. The four young royal princes and princesses are irresistibly gorgeous, polite and being raised by loving parents. But my visit to Copenhagen also taught me that to end the story there would be an injustice to the Crown Princess, who inspires so much more than a belief that real-life fairytales can come true. There are palaces, manicured gardens, ballrooms and jewels in this story, along with obvious and very real love in the life of the Crown Princess. From what I witnessed, this young royal family manages duty, majesty and an admirable amount of normality with aplomb. Priorities, love and discipline seem to be keys. I left Copenhagen thinking: 'There is a woman who wakes up every day and tries to be her best self', and feeling like I needed to commit to the same thing. Inspiring people to do better seems to be somewhat of an innate talent of the Crown Princess, who leads by setting a fine example, and I was certainly not immune. In Australia, we pore over images of the Crown Princess dressed in beautiful and appropriate outfits attending events in Denmark or abroad on royal tours, but we only see part of the picture. Crown Princess Mary handles her royal occasions with grace and poise while remaining welcoming and friendly: the perfect blend of regal and real. Dressed up or down, her presence is commanding, but what is most striking is her intelligence; she is a focused and dedicated woman who is making her mark as a global leader and agent for change on the world stage.
In Danish there is a word, ildsjael, which roughly translates to mean "someone with a fire in their belly", and the Crown Princess is certainly an ildsjael who burns for a cause and has the power to act. She is committed to using the position royalty allows to speak up for those who do not have a voice, as a champion for gender equality and sustainability.
During the month Vogue and Mario Testino visited Copenhagen to photograph this cover and take these beautiful pictures, the Crown Princess also opened two important conferences: the Copenhagen Fashion Summit, which focuses on sustainable practices within the fashion and textile industries; and Women Deliver 2016, the largest global conference on the rights, health and wellbeing of girls and women in the past decade. And aside from her family and country, it's clear this is where her passions lie.
"I see my role as not just being a voice of the voiceless, but also being able to be a catalyst for bringing people and relevant actors together," she tells me. "I believe that in order to find solutions to some of the most pressing global challenges of today we need to take a holistic approach that requires us to consider the social, environmental and economic aspects and work together in new and innovative partnerships, maybe with people and organisations we wouldn't have thought about working with before.
"It will require a continuous effort and patience, and strong and authentic leadership: it takes time to create real and sustainable change. I try, as effectively as possibly, to use the platform that I have built up over the years to advocate and work for the empowerment of women and girls and the protection and respect of their human rights."
I ask her if she sees herself as a role model: "I find it difficult to speak of myself as a role model, as role models are defined by the individual. It is what they see in a person that gives meaning or inspiration to them that makes another person a role model for them. It's not something I consciously think about. But at the same time, I am very aware of my role and my responsibility. If I can inspire others and if others see something in me that can motivate them, then that's a big compliment." Many women, including Natasha Stott Despoja, who was an Australian delegate at the Women Deliver conference, admire the Crown Princess for her authentic and commendable commitment to the issue of gender equality.
"For me, gender equality means equal access to education, health services and information, economic participation and political representation," explains the Crown Princess, who wants all girls and women to have equal opportunities so they can fulfil their full potential. She becomes particularly impassioned when we discuss some of the remarkable women and ildsjaels she has met: "They and the youth at the Women Deliver conference are the people who inspire and motivate me."
Unlike celebrity, royalty comes with a large amount of duty, which is something royals have managed with varying degrees of success. Modern royalty comes with the added complication of an unforgiving media spotlight, which is never switched off. In this environment it would be easy to understand why a royal might choose an easier path than committing herself to tackling some of the most pressing problems on the planet. But Crown Princess Mary is not that type of royal; she is not one to shy away from a challenge. Her desire to help is governed by a deep sense of justice and fairness is a strong, overarching value.
"One thing I have always found difficult from as early as I can remember is seeing people who appear to be alone," she says. "It has always affected me deeply and I can't explain why. To see people standing on the outside looking in, who can't understand why they aren't part of a community or group. We all have this innate fear of not belonging; as humans we have a fundamental need to feel like a valuable and an accepted member of a community or group."
And so the Mary Foundation was formed 10 years ago, thanks to a generous wedding gift of 1 million Danish Krone, and the idea of creating a foundation that was different and could give something back to people who are socially isolated.
 "We all have the right to belong. Domestic violence, bullying and loneliness, they are our three focus areas," explains the Crown Princess, and within these focus areas we have different initiatives, projects and partnerships to address the complex problems within these focus areas. Those three areas were chosen because they all have links to social isolation and many of them are very taboo or overlooked. The abused woman, the bullied child and the lonely adolescent feel very, very alone in the world with their problems and will often never share them. The problem feeds on isolation and isolation feeds on the problem; the Mary Foundation is all about the value of community and belonging, something that is fundamental for each and every one of us."

Her commitment to tackle difficult, often taboo issues was a driving force 10 years ago, but where did it come from? "It's difficult to explain; I have not always been so driven. Over the years you develop and grow, you have your earlier years where you just do what you have to do but, once you find your passion, things change in many ways. One thing my parents always said to me was: 'Do your best', whether you were going to a sporting event, sitting an exam or helping a friend, it was always: 'Do your best', and I think that builds in you a sense of duty and responsibility to fulfil your potential."
Her father, John Dalgleish Donaldson, is a professor of mathematics and has spent more time working in Copenhagen since her wedding; her mother Henrietta Clark Donaldson was an executive assistant at the University of Tasmania, and passed away in 1997. The hymn Eternal Father was included in the royal wedding ceremony in 2004 in memory of her.
It was obvious from the moment she appeared in public life that the Crown Princess was a perfect fashion plate and it was no surprise that the Danish fashion community was quick to adopt her as its patron of the Danish Fashion Fair. But the Crown Princess is not the type of woman to be content simply sitting in the front row of fashion shows as a celebrity guest. Instead, she has used her influence and knowledge to promote the most significant global summit on sustainable fashion, which in this its seventh year attracted a powerhouse of speakers and guests.
"The Danish Fashion Institute approached me to get involved and at that time it was clear that the fashion industry needed to make some fundamental changes?" explains the Crown Princess. "I believed in the Fashion Institute's initiative and its ideas to be a catalyst for bringing influential decision makers in fashion, business and politics together to engage in discussions on how to tackle the growing environmental and social footprints that the industry leaves across the globe."
Denmark is an obvious choice to host such an initiative, with its strong reputation for and focus on renewable energy, often demonstrating that it is possible to generate economic growth while causing minimal environmental damage. In July last year, unusually strong winds meant Denmark's windfarms produced 140 per cent of the nation's electricity needs and the surplus was sold to neighbouring countries Germany, Norway and Sweden. A surge in windfarm installations could mean Denmark is able to produce half its electricity needs from renewable sources and meet its 70 per cent target date of 2020. By 2050, the country plans to meet 100 per cent of its energy needs from renewables, abandoning coal, oil and gas forever.
And it isn't just in sustainability that Denmark is leading the way. In March this year the country was again rated the happiest place in the world by the UN World Happiness Report (WHR). It's a nation offering admirable leadership in environmental challenges, and design in Denmark is unsurpassed (every restaurant and public space in Copenhagen is a study in good taste), yet it is also a country of high taxes and long dark winters, which is not what you would call the perfect recipe for a happy population. The secret to their success seems to me to be a sense of fairness and equality. Denmark is a country with a constitutional monarchy, a royal family with the longest continuous royal lineage, and yet in this nation you don't get an overarching sense of an aristocracy or privilege shared only among a select few. This relatively egalitarian approach to life is nothing new. The 18th-century Danish philosopher Nikolaj Grundtvig said Denmark was a country where "few have too much, and even fewer have too little".

It is also a country in which a royal family has not only survived but thrived. Queen Margrethe II of Denmark, Crown Prince Frederik's mother, is known for her love of painting and the arts. Danes celebrated with gusto when the much-adored monarch turned 76 earlier this year.
Likewise, the Crown Prince and Crown Princess are applauded for their unaffected manner: the royal couple are often spotted pedalling their young twins, five-year-olds Prince Vincent and Princess Josephine, to school — they sit in a little bucket on the front of their mother's bike.
The day following our photo shoot we bumped into the Crown Princess while fashion director Christine Centenera and I were out exercising. I am not sure who I felt more sorry for: the royal guards who, dressed in their regalia, raised their guns in salute until HRH left the square, which we delayed because of our chatter; or us, dressed in our sweats. When I was a little girl my grandmother instructed me to always leave the house looking my best, because you never know who you might run in to. Her words were ringing in my ears as I talked to the Crown Princess in my trainers.
And yet the Crown Princess made us feel comfortable, as though she was just another mother on the school run, albeit beautifully but casually dressed, and perfectly groomed. The Crown Prince is equally warm and at ease in public, as we discovered when Testino photographed the royal couple on a chalup for Vogue, with the Amalienborg Palace glowing behind in the sunset. It was an unusually sunny day in Copenhagen and some happy Danes had decided to take out an open barge and indulge in a few drinks at sundown. Recognising the royal couple, they directed the skipper to come closer to the yacht and called out waving and cheering. The Crown Prince smiled broadly, laughing and waving back as though they were long-lost friends.
Patrick Kinmonth was also on the photo shoot and is a long-time collaborator of Testino's. He was a creative director for fashion and portraiture shoots for British Vogue, and has been responsible for many royal portraits during his career, including the famous images Testino took of Diana, Princess of Wales, for Vanity Fair in 1997, and the portraits of the Crown Prince and Princess that were hung in the Mario Testino No Limits exhibition, which opened in Copenhagen the week we were in town. Today, Kinmonth is widely known for his stage, costume, opera, ballet, interior and architectural designs.
"The Crown Princess looks more beautiful than ever and profoundly settled into her working life in the royal family," says Kinmonth. "One of their outstanding qualities is in the sharing of their privilege and making one feel completely at home. I cannot say which of them is more adept at this — it's a tie!"
Amalienborg Palace is actually made up of four different palaces that surround a square. The Crown Prince and Princess live with their family in the north-eastern palace named after royal forbearer Frederik VIII; it is also known as Brockdorff's Palace. The royal couple renovated their home in 2009. With his critical eye, Kinmonth best sums up the beautiful interiors, which feature the work of young Danish artists prominently, saying the radical inclusion of works by contemporary artists in this historical Danish landmark building is integral to the decor, which he feels speaks to the way this thoroughly modern royal family choose to live.
"There is a wonderful relaxed atmosphere and genuine warmth and elegance," he says. There are grand rooms, but within the palace there is also a comfortable home including a chic modern, wooden Danish kitchen, in which Vogue took the beautiful family portrait featured in this issue.

I was one of the speakers invited to dinner at Frederik VIII's Palace on the eve of the opening of the Copenhagen Fashion Summit. Another of the palaces across the square is usually used for official receptions and I was told it was unusual for the royal couple to open their home.
We arrived into a grand reception room, where our names were collected to be read out individually so that we might be formally presented to the Crown Prince and Princess. (Yes, just like in the fairytales.) I have to confess, walking towards this beautiful couple, who were all smiles but so handsomely dressed and possessing an even more regal presence in such a grand situation, was a rather surreal moment. Once inside, I could fully appreciate the beautiful decoration and scale of the sumptuous rooms. Then things became more surreal when we were seated at the dining table under a row of enormous chandeliers sipping from glassware each stamped with the double monogram of the couple, and the Copenhagen Boys Choir surrounded us and began to sing. I have seen many a haute couture show and some rather amazing events, but this was far more beautiful.
Much has been written about the Crown Princess's former life in Australia, where she was born in Hobart in 1972, mostly focusing on her chance meeting with the Crown Prince during the Sydney 2000 Olympics. What is often omitted is that she holds a Bachelor of Commerce/ Laws, having graduated from the University of Tasmania in 1994. Between 1996 and 2003 she had several jobs in advertising and she made a move to Paris in 2002. When she moved to Copenhagen she was employed by Microsoft Business Solutions. Australians who knew her before she married tell me she was always exceptional and insist she was destined for great things. Danes who I spoke to — from my taxi driver to a school friend of the Crown Prince —adore her and rave about her ability to learn Danish so quickly and proficiently, which speaks again of her intelligence and the impeccable job she has done in her royal role. Today she speaks English with a European accent and apologises when she occasionally labours to find an English translation for something she is trying to explain; she clearly thinks in Danish. And yet there were a few instances during our shoot when she suddenly breaks into her Australian accent just for our entertainment.
Humour, intelligence and a desire to give their children as normal an upbringing as possible are just some of the qualities the royal couple share. Their first son, Prince Christian, was born on October 15, 2005. Now 10, he will succeed his father as a future King of Denmark one day. Princess Isabella arrived in 2007, and then the royal couple decided they would add one more to their family, only to be pleasantly surprised with twins: Prince Vincent and Princess Josephine, in 2011. With such a young family I wonder if her children understand the importance of the work their mum is doing.
"(Gender equality) as a topic of conversation is probably something that occurs more subconsciously. It's not an issue we discuss directly unless, of course, I'm sharing with them stories or experiences from my travels and work. It's interesting to hear what their responses and reflections are. It is not only what they see and experience but what the messages we as parents give them both consciously and unconsciously. They are privileged to be growing up in a (Danish) society where men and women, for the most, are equal, and they also see that in our relationship."
When Vogue interviewed the Crown Princess in 2004, she said she believed monarchies today are flexible and open enough to allow a modern woman to combine her aspirations with tradition and that she hoped she proved worthy of the enthusiastic acceptance she had received from the Danish people. "I have to believe I wouldn't be here if I couldn't do this," she said. When I suggest she should be proud of her achievements and that Australians certainly are, for the first time in our conversation she struggles to respond. The Crown Princess is not very good at taking a compliment.
"I would say I'm not very good at accepting praise and recognition," she agrees. "I have a strong perfectionist streak, which means that, for example, if I look back over a speech I tend to focus on the bit that was not quite right, instead of everything else that was good." The famous Danish writer Hans Christian Andersen wrote: "Life itself is the most wonderful fairytale." He might have written that for Crown Princess Mary, who is living each day giving it 100 per cent.

She's a fierce advocate for gender equality, but it's Crown Princess Mary's charm and intelligence that made her message all the more powerful as honoured guest at a welcome reception hosted by the Australian ambassador to Denmark to celebrate Australia's participation in one of the most dynamic women's conferences in the world. Women Deliver, held in Copenhagen in May, was the largest global conference on the health, rights and wellbeing of girls and women in a decade, and the Australian-born princess was its patron. I led the official Australian delegation, joined by 80 Australian delegates from non-government organisations, universities, youth groups and medical research institutes.
Many of these people are unsung heroes in their work, which ranges from maternal and child health to ending child marriage. As specialists in their field, they are not easily impressed, yet they were all in awe of Crown Princess Mary's knowledge, perception and understanding of the issues. The Crown Princess chatted happily and informally for hours with us, covering topics such as sexual and reproductive health, midwifery, the role of young people and LGBTI rights. The tabloid headlines the next day, however, focused on her sartorial choice and debated whether she had stepped out in an electric blue dress or a jumpsuit. Apparently it was a pantsuit, as the Crown Princess was gracious enough to do a twirl when asked by some of the guests. It is this down-to-earth manner and charm that endears the Crown Princess to her nation and to legions of fans around the world. These admirers are no clutch of simpering royal watchers: it is the global women's movement that has come to respect and claim her. In September 2015, at the Global Citizen Festival in Central Park, New York, which celebrated the adoption of the UN sustainable development goals, Crown Princess Mary asked: "Next time someone asks you or you ask yourself: 'What the most important thing that can be done to improve the world?' You know the answer: gender equality."
I recall literally bumping into her at that event as I rushed around to catch a glimpse of Coldplay and Malala Yousafzai. She looked like any hip New Yorker. She was one of the crowd and seemed surprised that anyone would recognise her. Her pronounced support for gender equality is not new. Her commitment to these issues has been ongoing for more than a decade. The Crown Princess has used her power and privilege to advance these causes in her home country and abroad. She is a staple at the UN Commission on the Status of Women, and is a member of the High-Level Task Force for the International Conference on Population and Development, which works to advance sexual and reproductive health and rights. But Women Deliver was Crown Princess Mary's most significant platform to date.

About 6,000 women descended on Copenhagen and it was the perfect city for such a conference. The conference centre, like the capital, is sustainable, modern and edgy. It had everything from an abundance of environmentally friendly bathrooms to recycled brown paper packaged lunch bags. Copenhagen is a picture-postcard liveable, green city. Everyone is on a bike and the town is clean and accessible. Denmark is also a nation used to women in positions of power and to powerful men who talk as easily about women's empowerment and sexual and reproductive rights as they do about football.
As a former senator, I felt I was in an episode of Borgen, the Danish series featuring a progressive female leader of a minor party who becomes Prime Minister. The Danes are not afraid of powerful women. And the royal family exemplifies this commitment to gender equality, at least. Crown Princess Mary's opening address to Women Deliver frankly pleaded with governments and society to do more to achieve gender equality. She stated that closing the gender gap should be a priority in all modern societies. "It will require strong and authentic leadership from governments and civil society. By working as one and closing the gender gap we become more powerful," she said. It is not unusual to see the front row of multi-lateral summits reserved for royalty along with heads of states and ministers. Women Deliver was no different, as modern European, mostly female, royals lined the rows.
Princess Mabel van Oranje of the Netherlands ("Call me Mabel") chairs Girls Not Brides, which is committed to ending child, early and forced marriage. She sat with Princess Benedikte of Denmark, Crown Prince Haakon and Crown Princess Mette-Marit of Norway. It can be a challenge for us hard-line republicans, but these contemporary monarchs are using their privilege and opportunities for domestic progress and for the global good. Crown Princess Mary has established the Mary Foundation, which focuses on bullying and wellbeing, domestic violence and loneliness. In addition, she is patron of the Maternity Foundation, which works to secure survival of women when pregnant or giving birth. She is patron of the United Nations Population Fund, which tries to ensure each pregnancy is wanted, every birth is safe and young people do not get HIV/AIDS. And she is patron of the Danish Mother's Help, which gives support and counsel to families or single mothers. She is our strongest link in our blossoming Australian-Danish relations. As I left the conference, I drove past Amalienborg Palace, where Crown Princess Mary and her family live, and saw that an Australian and Danish crowd had gathered for a function to commemorate Jim Utzon, the Danish architect who designed the Sydney Opera House.
The first time I met Her Royal Highness was during her first official visit to Australia when she came to the Federal Parliament. Like many politicians and their families, I was part of a scrum in the Great Hall keen to see an Australian princess. I was with my husband, Ian, and my 12-week-old son, Conrad. As Conrad was restless in the BabyBjorn held by Ian, we began to bounce up and down to cajole him. Just as we were about to leave, the Crown Princess appeared. She greeted us warmly with a noticeable Australian accent (these days her English has a strong Danish inflection), but as I shook her hand I blurted: "Oh goodness, we are still bouncing!" She replied: "That's fine, we will all bounce together." And she did. That moment crystallised her empathy and kindness and I have been fortunate to see it on the world stage ever since.
As Jill Sheffield, the president of Women Deliver, remarked: "She does her homework, she delivers and she's well-spoken and smart." At Women Deliver, Crown Princess Mary urged us: "Together, let's deliver for girls to have choice, not chance." Our Australian-born princess is using every chance to ensure just that. ■ Natasha Stott Despoja is the Australian Ambassador for Women and Girls.

  • Photos: Mario Testino
  • Article originally published on August issue of VOGUE Australia.


Thursday, June 23, 2016

Interview with King Carl XVI Gustaf and Queen Silvia for Dagens Nyheter.

The Queen and King look back on forty years of family life. Being parents of three children, on photos of Madeleine and Estelle in public and how we receive refugee children coming across the Oresund Bridge. 
It is one of summer's first really warm evenings. On the driveway to Drottningholm Palace there are groups of tourists with their noses in the map and students drag picnic baskets. The baby carriages crunching past in the thick gravel and children in sun hats and holding lazily on baby bottles and stuffed animals.
This is the royal couple's home the biggest part of the year.
We roll up the car to the guard at the private part of the park. We are told that the King is delayed. The same day, he was critical on the Nobel Centers placement and media circles reactions around. The photographer Paul Hansen gets a little stressed out because he knows that he must have time to rig a good photo spot.
Soon, the King explains how free he felt at the boarding school in Sigtuna, how he grew up inside the castle in the town. But we are not there yet.
I have always been fascinated by the Royal Family. When I played office as a child, we cut out pictures from magazines and glued them up on the board and had our "fiancés" on the desktop, just like we've seen on films. My friends had Bjorn Ulvaeus or Svenne Hedlund. I myself had the King in full regalia with medals and all.
The Royal Family is a kind of elevated family that you study, if it comes to clothes or relationships. When I read Alice Bah Kuhnke's book of interviews with the Crown Princess, "Victoria, Victoria," I thought, she's me! A high-performance big sister.
When I disclose this small special interest it takes rarely more than a few seconds before I'm inside an animated discussion on the absurd and undemocratic that 2016 may inherit in office. All that is true. Yet it is strange that this particular fascination is such a trigger. When I last week wrote a column about my exitement for the Royal Wedding a colleague came to me and whispered: "I'm just like you! I remember as well how I along with grandmother and mother looked on guests dresses in Home's Journal ".
When she says something, it falls into place. This interest is clearly stronger in the female population. Therefore, it is also considered additionally ridiculous and sickening.
So therefore I sit here proud on the car and also think talking to the Royal Couple about a topic that is considered honorable, something that should be high status but is defined as the low status. Children.
On the way to the shoot. Queen Silvia, the court Communications manager Margareta Thorgren, DN's Åsa Beckman and the King accompanied by his dog Brandie.

Now we are finally let in and roll through the green gates. We are told that the King has arrived and that the Queen should just change clothes. In the private part of the park towards Lake Mälaren, Paul begins rigging his equipment. The sun drops and while we wait, we move on photo flash several times. A startled deer shoot out of a thicket and flees across one of the wooden bridges so that the hooves clatter in the silence.

The Queen is the first to pop behind a rhododendron bush, calmly strolling in the grass. She is dressed in a light suit with beige shoes. Afterwards comes the King with Brandie, wearing a blue suit and white shirt. The dog has eagerly nose forefront, she feels that there has been something wild here. "Good evening, Your Majesties," we say, even if we are at the preliminary meeting, the palace informed that we didn't need to be so dreadful in less formal contexts.
Paul has been sitting in a bench that Communications Manager Margareta Thorgren quickly dried off. The Royal Couple sits down and the Communications Manager points out that it's 40 years since they were married and that they would get to see a little romance out. Queen bends friendly toward the king and looks intently at him. He looks slightly in different directions and points out that there are beavers in the Gulf.
Then we go back to the castle and are dropped into an even more distinct garden, framed by giant, stately Thuja. The gravel is carefully raked. The Royal Couple sets themselves comfortable on a bench and I on a little peasant-like chair in front of them. A robotic lawnmower is moving slowly, back and forth, behind us.
A short distance away stands the adjutant of the backlight that keeps the King's dog.
The King is accompanied with his wild Bavarian bloodhound, who became known to the Swedish people in the television documentary "Ensamnt Majestät".
After the King's speech after the 2005 tsunami, I have been curious about their views on children and parenting. At the large memorial ceremony at the City Hall, the King stepped up and talked about how adults now must rally around the children who lost parents, siblings, friends. And he directed a special appeal to the men of his generation who had extra hard to show feelings. An unusual number for a head of state, both stable and fragile, and precisely because confidence.
When I say that I want to talk to them about the children, the King lets out a "gee!" But quickly tightens up.
We have the good fortune to have children and grandchildren.
You've got five grandchildren in just five years. How has it changed the family?
I think that Prince Carl Philip put it very nicely on the Te Deums, the Queen says. In a little speech to the guests, he talked about how difficult it is to describe the feeling of having a baby. It is one of those wonders. You feel great warmth and gratitude, but also an incredible responsibility. I think all parents feel the same responsibility, they want to do the best for their children. But the day is, it has its work, since stress to home. It is difficult for children to be in the hustle.
We ourselves had a fairly full program, says the King. They won't probably understand until afterwards what we went through. Unfortunately. Something we may not be noticed or felt then. We always had a nanny who could help and be stand out but it's never the same thing.
He looks at the lawnmower aimed at a honeysuckle.

Afterwards, we have understood that the kids thought it was sad that we had to leave them as often as we did. The thought is not the time. Well, you thought about it but was stuck in the program and it was hard to break it. I have not counted, but I think Victoria is more at home than we were. She is on maternity leave, and we didn't do that at the time, says the Queen.
A friend of mine used to say that a new child gets the parent you never were. Is it true?
Yes, it is, says the King. I think it depends after every time you have a new child, the Queen says. In a way, each child has other parents than their siblings had, even though it is the same. It changes all the time for myself. The last child doesn't require as much time as you did with the first. It is less nervous. Each child really gets new parents.
They both say that they always will be as surprised when they listen to their children as they describe their childhood so different.
Of course, I went to boarding school, says the King. In the beginning it was hard, but then it became a positive experience. For my colleagues it was much harder because they had a freer home. But for me, life was simpler, not so circumscribed. I was staying at the castle, I could not move freely, but in Sigtuna, I could do it, at least when I was a little older.

Almost exactly 40 years ago, on June 19, 1976, the King and Queen got married. They had met at the Munich Olympics four years earlier. It was the first royal wedding since 1700, and the media blip was great. The bride wore a gown sewn by Dior. According to the King it would be a wedding as open as possible and not just the actual wedding ceremony in the Cathedral but also the lunch was broadcasted live on television.
The 33-year-old Silvia Sommerlath, who was born in a German family of entrepreneurs, but grew up in Brazil in 1957 had moved to Germany and was a trained interpreter. She lived in Munich and worked for the Olympic Committee. Now, she left a normal life and went into a life as a Queen with the main task to support her husband, the head of state. And to secure the heirs to the throne.
All parents are considering what to pass on to their children. And the Royal Couple has brought forward a very determined life - privileged and rich experience, but also highly regulated. What do you think about that?
You do not know really what goes in, the Queen says with a little suspense.
You knew that your children would be closely watched and they would be strictly monitored in the media. Has it happened that you stood and looked at them as they slept and got stabbed in the heart and you thought: should they need to be out of this?
We did try to be a little more protective when it came to media, said the King. Our young people today have a completely different accustomed to media noise, another relationship. It has changed enormously.

Seven children asking questions to the Royal Couple.

Johan Grundberg, 6: Is it hard to be King - are there so many numbers and so on?
King: Yes. It is always very hard to be in focus all the time. Huge hassle. But it is also very funny. I get to learn a lot.

Esther Eagle, 8: Who is the mightiest of the King and Queen?
Queen: That I do not dare to answer.
King: That I dare not to answer!
No, but it is the King, the Queen informs.

Cecilia Sundberg, 7: Do the King and Queen cook themselves food in the morning?
King: We are both interested and think it's fun to cook, even breakfast.

Louis Kroon, 7: How many books about Kings, does the King have?
King: It's a difficult question! But we have the Bernadotte Library at the Royal Palace. There are books of Kings, for Kings and books gathered by Kings.

Matilda Persson, 7: Can the Queen crochet?
Queen: Yes, I can. When I was four years old mom shared on a crochet hook so that I could keep it. Since then I have been able to crochet.
King: I can beat a bowline.

Liana Kahsay, 8: How many money does the King have?
King: Oh, it's a difficult question. I do not know really. It depends on how you count.

Kian Dempsey Malmqvist, 8: What is your favorite county that you went to?
King: That we dare not to answer!
Queen: We say Öland.

Yes, we let the media at certain times, like at Christmas or Easter, the Queen says. The media respected that and did not follow the children when they, for example, went to school. So everyday they were quite protected and could move freely, it was very nice. But with social media, of course, it has changed enormously. Everyone has an iPhone, everyone is a paparazzi. Now it heavily backed throughout.
But they can of course also communicate with their friends in a totally different way of ... well, I can't tell all these different acronyms! They live so, there is nothing strange. I think it's really weird to always be available, both with voice and picture. For them it will be more natural to have their children with them in the media, says the King.
Are you talking about things in your family dinners?
I do not want to put myself in the way as much, says the King. They have always done as they wanted. They have strong wills!
You do not know what is best. I know the Swedish people love to see little Estelle. And she's adorable and funny and alert - and her parents release pictures of her. But they always do it in a protected manner, always the same photographer. She can handle it well. All children might not make it, but she does. That is so personal.
Has it gone through the royal couple's head that the price of this life has been too high?
Both are quiet for a while.
When they turned 18, says the Queen, the media suddenly changed and was more on our children. Then it was difficult to manage it.
And coverage of your grandchildren now?
Yes, says the Queen and becomes a little tense in her voice, I get sad when I see how the media is monitoring everything especially our children.
But she did ask you about our grandchildren! says the King and sounds a bit brusque. Was it not so? Our own are adults, they are not children.
I continue to turn to the Queen and say that you understood that she reacted to the treatment of Princess Madeleine.
She is a fantastic and dedicated person. It shows you do not. I wish it would be more fair.
In his tsunami speech, the King spoke about how it was to grow up fatherless. The King lost his father before he was even a year old. Is it easier to identify with children who has it a little tough?
The King is clearing his throat. I don't  know, I don't think so. The problem is not the problem ... but ... I knew nothing else. It is strange. In this way i didn't suffer so much of it. I had not had any other experience. I understood that there was something missing. Friends had no male parent, a father. It resets itself. Certainly there are traumatic events in children who have experienced terrible events. But at the same time they are of course very strong. Most can handle the difficult situations, better than they anticipate.Take only the unaccompanied refugee children who come to Sweden today, he continues, the traumatic events behind them, but they are very tough and can handle themselves. Not everyone, but many. It will perhaps be felt in other ways later in life. But after all it is strange how strong they are. It's a sort of instinct, of nature.
Will the king remember any specific situation when as a child he felt extra seen or helped by an adult?
He becomes quiet. I have to think about. Not spontaneously. No, it is difficult.


 We need adults who see the essence of the work of the Childhood Foundation, which the Queen founded in 1999. They talk a lot about "everyone's right to a childhood." In projects all over the world and try to prevent child abuse and exploitation. The focus is the street children but also "children who are on the move (between different cities and countries)."
Today there are 30 million refugee children. In 2016, the expected 27,000 unaccompanied children arrived to Sweden. Is there a need to tighten up your focus on them right now?
Yes, they are particularly vulnerable. In Germany, Childhood supports now several projects for unaccompanied children. They may have lost their parents, at home or during the journey. They have lost everything: family, friends, their roots. And so they come to a place where they do not know anyone. We educate adults who can serve as role models, who can lead the children.
A couple of seagulls sail by.
I say that I understand that the refugee crisis involved the entire Royal Family during the year and they visited the asylum accommodation and various integration projects.
It's not just us who travel around the world, says the King. Many Swedes go on holiday, in all possible parts of the world, and are perhaps even closer to this problem than we do. They have to also react reasonably and take with them memories and pictures. But we have a large network, the King continues, and the opportunity to vent those feelings; to start something, to contact, to talk to people, to raise questions. It is the great privilege we have by our position. And it has to be taken. If we would not take advantage of the platform to help others, it would be the almost misconduct. It is a great privilege. Such things may not quite understandable at first.
In life as king?
Yes, in the 30s. They did not have time and energy to embrace it then. But I have also seen and heard of you through the years - he says and turns to the Queen - and have become aware of the problem. Now I'm in a different phase, this is the next challenge. As it is not still, the momentum is still there.I tell you that I heard on the radio about how Tarnaby welcomed refugees who arrived last fall. In the small northern community, there in the winter there is not so much else to do than to go skiing. So with the help of local sponsors they managed to buy ski equipment and started a ski school for all new arrivals.
The king looks pleased.
Is it important that the Royal Family during certain historical periods, have the extra presence - much like the Danish Royal Family did during the war?
Yes, but it just happens. It is not something we plan, says Queen. The situation ...
... Is emerging, continues the King. You always think: what can we do? It applies not only to the refugee accommodation but also in problem areas like Rosengård or Angered. They are not seen. They feel fleeced. To be seen and accepted as an individual, it is absolutely the most important. We can come to visit. Even if we just say hello and good day, we try to convey a feeling. Then they know: You are not forgotten here.

When I sit there on the little rustic chair, I think that the Royal Family is so much more paradoxical than the gossip papers sugary image or Republican considerably saltier.
At the same time, how many people see so many different sides of Sweden during a year that these two people on the bench? Sure, they often visit hospitals, factories and schools and they have always nervous councilor and staff in town but still: they are there and look. It is probably far more than those who think that the Royal Couple live in a bubble do.
The dog begins to think that this is boring and the adjutant unleashes her so that she can buff with her nose against the King's hand.
If the Royal Couple could meet refugees who just come across the Öresund bridge - what would you like to send them on their continuing journey through Sweden?

I would call a friend, give them the name and address of someone they can trust, says the King. I have some friends who are mentors. It's not easy! Insanely difficult! Here is a young man from somewhere and then an elderly uncle try to be friends! It takes time before they find a way to socialize. But I have heard so many times: without your help, I had never been able to get the job or a loan. It is extremely important. I would like there to be an organization that supports families so that they can receive unaccompanied minors. They must receive training and support from the social. We need to give these children new home.
Can Sweden take the challenge to give them the childhood that the Royal Couple think is so important?Yes, we must do it, says the King. There is no other way. We must help those who are in need. It helps a person in need. Thats how it is. Just last year, 70,000 refugee children arrived and half of them were unaccompanied. There are tremendous numbers. There are so many fates that must be taken care of. I think they do a fantastic job, so many who want to help. It is so positive that there are so many hands.
The sun is lower and it is time to quit. We stand up. The dog looks hopeful out. The Director goes through some details before the Royal Couple's engagements tomorrow. Before we say goodbye, the Queen turns to us with her iPhone, and shows a picture of Estelle.

A plucky kid laughing at the camera that so far lives quite unaware of the royal duties and media coverage.

Then, the Royal Couple disappears into the palace.